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I wait excitedly for Fall each year because it feels like a time of transformation. With Halloween as a promise, the freaks get our moment to shine in the mainstream and watch the collective explosion of imagination as people dip their toes in the cool waters of fantasy, costuming, character development, power shifts, and the sweet release of being yourself by being something totally other than yourself. And all drenched in a newfound or expanded sense of sexiness. People knock the Spirit Halloween genre of sexy costumes, but I say, …

When most people think about safer sex, they think of sex impeded by awkward conversations and sensation-blocking barriers, entirely lacking in the spontaneity, closeness, and stickiness that make an experience fucking special. But safer sex practices, rather than dampening an experience, can ignite it and lead to more adventure, more spontaneity, more intimacy, and—if you’re trying to have them—more orgasms. The fact is, safer sex is hotter sex. It’s hotter because it’s based on communication. It’s hotter because it’s based on consent and mutual respect. And it’s hotter because once …