When it comes to sex toys, it’s important to remember that they are not a one-size-fits-all proposition; what works for me may not work for you. This becomes especially important when we consider that we all have differing physical capabilities. Sometimes that fact falls by the wayside when we are talking about sex, leaving folks with disabilities out in the cold.
The good news is these days we have more sex toy options than ever. This means more choices for people with differing physical needs. Today we’re looking at some of my favorite toys and products that can make pleasure more accessible for folks with disabilities. This list is, by no means, exhaustive but it’s a good place to start.
Handles can make a huge difference in whether toys work for users.
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Toys with Longer Handles
Handles can make a huge difference in whether toys work for users. Whether we are talking about folks who cannot grip a traditional short toy comfortably, people who— due to arm length or belly size— need a little help getting toys in position, or users with back pain, longer handles can offer effective and pleasurable solutions.
Dildos with Handles
When it comes to quality dildos with handles, Tantus makes some fabulous ones! The long handles and comfortable grips on these high-quality silicone dildos make thrusting much easier and more comfortable. These are my favorite suggestions:
- Tantus Goddess Handle Dildo
- Tantus Echo Handle Dildo
- Tantus G-Force Silicone Dildo
- Tantus Anaconda Silicone Dildo
Wand Massagers
Wand massagers are great for folks who need a long handle, powerful vibrations, or both. They can be held in place but can also be used face down, or between pillows or with a toy mount to hold the massager in place comfortably. BONUS: The super-strong vibrations can also help folks dealing with medication side effect like anorgasmia achieve orgasm. Here are some of my favorites:
Toys that Thrust
Thrusting toys can be helpful for folks who enjoy the sensation of thrusting but for whom, due to pain, weakness, grip issues, and more, manually thrusting a toy is uncomfortable. Additionally, some thrusting toys can be used hands-free allowing the user to comfortably lay back and enjoy! Since the introduction of the first Fun Factory Stronic in 2012, thrusting toys have become more common and more accessible for consumers. Here are some awesome choices:
- Fun Factory Stronic Real
- Fun Factory Stronic Surf
- Fun Factory Stronic G
- Fun Factory Bi Stronic
- Velvet Thruster Jackie Powerful Thrusting Silicone Dildo
Props are a great choice for folks who experience pain, fatigue or stiffness during sex, or for those with limited mobility who need support to stay in a comfortable position.
No-Erection-Needed Penis Toys
Toys designed for penis stimulation often require an erection and if you are dealing with erectile dysfunction, it can feel like there’s not much available for you.Fortunately there are some products that are effective at bringing about orgasms without an erection.
Personal Lubricant
Lubricant can make sex and masturbation more comfortable and pleasurable for everyone but if you or your partner are experiencing changes in personal lubrication, it can be a sexual game changer. There is a wide range of lubricant options out there so lets go over the different types as well as my favorite choices in each category.
